Little annoyances...

I usually don't ask for a lot in life....ok, maybe I do, but still, there are some things that in my opinion are super simple but always drag out and take too long to either materialise or just come to a conclusion. Yes, its sad that my first post is about men but do you blame me, I'm a girl so, over kahawa tonight, the topic up for discussion is this type of man.

Lets not kid ourselves girls, to some extent, we like dragging out certain things in life, especially when they have to do with a man. Lets take a hypothetical example; boy likes girl, girl likes boy, but girl also likes another boy who in her opinion, makes much more sense to be in a relationship with than first boy. So girl makes a decision and tells first boy that she cant be with him because of second boy but that they can still remain friends. First boy reluctantly agrees and move on with his life but still loves girl and holds her dear to his heart. First boy is very protective over girl and constantly checks up on girl just to make sure she's doing good. They usually do the friend thing and go out to coffee dates just to catch up, go out for lunch bla bla bla, we are all aware of the series of events.

Anyhow, later on, girl breaks up with second boy, much to the relief of many of girls friends and secretly, hers as well. Lets pause her for a bit; have you ever been in a relationship then years later, after you are no longer in the relationship, you ask yourself, 'what on earth was I going through then?' and just cant help but laugh about the whole thing? Anyhow, we don't regret these relationships, they have actually helped us grow. OK, back to our hypothetical scenario, so, where was I? Oh, yes, so during this time, as stated before, boy has moved on with his love life and got a girlfriend, who is actually a nice person, the ones that come in between something that should have been always are, and the two really like each other. So now, girl has to be supportive of boys relationship even though she secretly feels that she made such a massive mistake.

Years later, during one of those inexplicable weak moments girls always have, she is with boy just looking back into past memories when...well, they sleep together.Aat first its weird but then later on, they agree to try and see if they can be 'friends with benefits'.
Pause yet again; do you see the problem already arising? you do? OK, let us move on....

So, they keep secretly sleeping together for a while while boy is in a relationship with girlfriend who he genuinely likes, and they have a blast. Now now now, if any guys are reading this I'm sure the thought they have is 'right on dude! score!' But if you are a girl reading this then I'm sure the thought in your head is 'what is he thinking? He has a girl who loves him and is committed to him and he's cheating.What kinda dude is this?' Am I right?

But this is what boy and girl are thinking, and actually discuss it, to try and 'save their friendship'; overall, it is cheating in the traditional sense but boy actually likes girl, like really really likes girl, without the whole aspect of 'benefits'added... and girl really really likes boy, enough to be genuinely happy for him and girlfriend, despite current state of affairs. Now many of you may be thinking, this is the point when all the bulls**t checks in, right? But stay with me, there's more, then you'll make up your mind at the end whether or not all this is complete bull and girl should just get a grip, or whatever comes as otherwise. They talk about if things had worked out back way back when, then they'd be such a strong and happy couple but boy cannot simply get rid of girlfriend because he has real feelings for this woman. Which is in some twisted sense, respected by girl and she would not want boy to break up with girlfriend for her (this is for the girls: we all know that deep deep deep down in her heart, girl really wants to make girlfriend disappear so that she can have her time with boy but girl will never admit to this, even to herself.)


Both of them have grown super close and do not want to stop sleeping together and they do not want to stop being friends. On the contrary, strange as it may sound, their platonic friendship actually grows stronger and they can even talk about each others significant others with each other and give each other constructive criticism and advice on how to deal with issues when they arise. So they keep on keeping on.


Almost done.... months later, boy and girlfriend break up. Girl is sad. Now don't get me wrong, girl is not sad that boy and girlfriend broke up, rather, that boy is going through a hard time. Now, girl doesn't do the Hollywood nonsense and goes to comfort boy and in the midst of the comfort, falls madly and deeply in love with boy, oh no, girl keeps away from boy because she knows that the Hollywood scenario could very easily become a reality. She offers support from a distance. Points to girl right?

During their friendship, like I said, boy has been very protective over girl and wants the best for her. They grew very close and sometimes, this was obvious to certain people, such as girl's best friend. It seems that girl and boy would work: girl is very headstrong but like ALL girls, yes girls, even the most fierce feminist falls within this category, she is vulnerable and boy protects this with ferociously.Bboy drives girl up the wall when he is a bit too protective and keeps questing some of her decisions but he never backs down from a fight with girl. He is not afraid to tell her what he thinks and feels even if she gets annoyed, which she often does, but he knows how to handle her and argue with her without offending her. This goes both ways, when he feels that girl is not necessarily making the wisest of decisions, and when he feels that she needs to know just how much she means to him * insert awww moment here*. A quality which i must say, she is quite addicted to in boy. But at least boy knows to let her win 90% of the fights they have. (guys, are you paying attention right here?)


So, now comes the problem. Girl is tired of dating guys who are good. She wants a guy who is great and she is looking for a potential life partner. Boy is a very very very strong contender but all he has been doing is everything other than actually deciding to ask girl to be in a relationship with him. Its not that girl is waiting for this to happen, although it would be really nice if it did, but she is comfortable with the question never coming up. Which would mean that focus would then shift to the other very very very strong contenders. But when girl and boy hang out, everything just feels so right, they look really good together, they can handle each other when they are at their worst, because neither is afraid to argue with the other, they know that they will argue it out and make their points then soon thereafter, get back together that much stronger. It only makes sense right?


So why then is there that 'wrong' that sneaks up behind girl when she asks herself this question? What is it?


..........hypothetically speaking of course!


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